Happy New Year. Hope you all brought in the new year with a positive mind-set and ready to achieve your goals. It’s the first Monday of the New Year and you should make the most of it. I didn’t participate in any New Years Eve festivities as I haven’t for the past three years actually. I brought it in at home with my favorite Moscato, filmed a YouTube make-up tutorial while listening to the new Fabolous x Trey Songz mixtape.
New Years Eve marks 4 years of me being single and relocating from Maryland. The years sure do go by fast. I didn’t really know how I felt about NYE and I already knew I didn’t want to celebrate it in the way of going to the club, I’ve done that over the years. For the past three years I’ve gone to church with family. This year I just wanted to relax, be safe, and prepare for the new year.
I spent my New Years sipping wine, watching Ryan Secrest New Years countdown, and editing my latest makeup tutorial.
Rewind to NYE morning, I had brunch with a male friend and we had a great conversation over food at one of my favorite places; The Yard.
One of the things we talked about, “does social media ruin relationships?” , “does it matter where I guy takes you on your first date?”, “why is it that a guy feels a sense of entitlement after 3-5 dates?”.
No, I don’t think social media ruins relationships. I feel as though the relationship wasn’t solid before announcing to social media you were in a relationship. When you vent on social media about your arguments you’re inviting outside feedback which tends to not be in your best interest, they’re happy you’re having problems. If you’re responding to direct messages rather than ignoring them, you’re entertaining what’s out there that you think would be better on the other side.
No, it doesn’t matter where a guy takes me on the first date. It doesn’t have to be a 5 star restaurant but it better not be a drive through either. The place doesn’t matter to an extent but the good conversation should be A-1.
I honestly don’t know why a guy feels a sense of entitlement after so many dates. Yes he’s spending money and investing his time but the number of dates shouldn’t dictate if we have sex or if we’re exclusive. You two should simply state your intentions and what you want out the situation.
You all know the introvert that I am I enjoy conversation and I enjoy picking the male brain to get their perspective on things. His response to the sense of entitlement question:
My boy took a girl out on plenty of dates and their not in a committed relationship. The guy hasn’t mentioned to the girl what he wants out it and neither has she. Afterwhile its like okay I’m spending money if we’re just friends, you can split the bill or we can eat at the crib. I told him he needs to talk to her if he wants out of the friend zone.
What do you all think about the questions in our conversation ? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Thanks for reading. Happy New Year.